Welcome to my transition blog. My name is Will. I'm a 19 year old transsexual man of colour.
I've been transitioning since 2010 and started testosterone in 2012. I'm a full-time university student and history major.
I can literally not think of any legitimate, reasonable reason to openly question another person’s gender identity or to purposely misgender them.
Even if you dislike the person.
I see many trans* men using the t-slur and not understanding why it’s inappropriate and not theirs to reclaim. It’s because trans* women are the main target of the group. This doesn’t mean that a trans* man have never had this word used against them. For example, I’ve been called it many times. However, I am still not the main target of the word.
There are other words like this. For example, pre-transition and pre-passing I was called a d*ke many, many times. However, I am not a lesbian woman. The word is not mine to reclaim. I am not the target of that word. Similarly, I’ve been called f*g many times because of the way I dress and look I’ve often been perceived as a gay man. That word is still not mine to use. I’m a straight man and not the target of that word.
Trans* men and all people who aren’t trans* women and use this word please take a moment to think about the history of the word and the target of the word.
I don’t remember if I mentioned this already but I am highly dissatisfied with my Emisil product. Within two weeks of having it there were two tears. It also doesn’t adhere.
I know too many trans men who like to act as though they don’t have male privilege/benefit from the patriarchy because they are trans and not cis.
It’s something that just really bothers me. I understand that not living as a man your entire life does change your life and experiences but that doesn’t mean you can deny the male privilege you have gained.
I’ve been reading about trans-misogyny because I want to better understand what it means. I think I get the general gist of what it means but I’m seeking some more education if anyone is willing :)
Does it essentially refer to the specific type of discrimination that trans* women experience based on their expression of femininity? Or am I missing the point? I don’t want to be ignorant.
Thanks to anyone willing to help me out :)
There’s a good chance I’ll be seeing my sister when I’m back for winter break. I haven’t seen her since before I started T. Her reaction will be interesting :P
Last night I had a dream where I punched one of my high school bullies in the face and it was very satisfying. I know violence doesn’t solve anything but damn I want to do that in real life :P
I’ve seen the following two arguments be made by the same people and I see a contradiction - anyone else?
Someone who is questioning their gender says they think they might be ftm and like to wear men’s clothing. Someone explains that clothing and gender have nothing to do with each other. Liking clothes of a different gender doesn’t make you trans* (which I agree with)
Someone who is ftm wears a skirt, make-up, or something else that typically women wear. Same person doubts that they are actually ftm because of this.
If clothing doesn’t determine gender identity (which I believe) how can someone make those arguments?
I often wonder what my life would be like without dysphoria. I can’t really imagine it. I assume it would be nice though.