May 2013
46 posts
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You're Not Stuck In Traffic; You Are Traffic:... →
haveyouevercriedwolf:
Ahhh, so, prom is coming up in a few weeks, after exams.
I have a suit, but it’s a pretty cheap off-the-rack one, my mum said she’d be willing to pay for a pretty well fitting one, since I’ll need one during/after uni for formal events and interviews and crap.
So - advice for suits to fit a…
For my prom I went to get fitted properly. I didn’t tell the guy I...
robertstarkjr:
I have an odd question
does anyone know if they make swimsuits for transmen who haven’t gotten top surgery yet?
I wear swim trunks, I just didn’t know if there was an option for a top other than having to wear a tshirt or tank top.
underworks does
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Information for Parents of Trans* People
Many parents struggle when their child tells them they are trans*. A lot parents go through the “stages of grief.” These stages can be tough for everyone. While some parents will be unwilling to learn anything many parents just need some direction and help. So here is a list of books, websites, and other information they might need or that might help them understand.
Books and Other...
being trans isn't my whole life. but right now its...
Very well said.
A Transsexual Man's Story: Trans guys and Lesbians... →
wildjesse:
journeyintomanhood:
Something that bothers me a lot is trans men trying to enter lesbian spaces/groups/etc or really any women’s spaces. Partly it bothers me because I don’t want more people to be convinced that trans men “are actually women” but that isn’t the main reason.
The main reason it bothers me is because…
Although I respect this person’s opinion, I respectfully disagree...
Job Hunting as a Pre-T Transman
ajshmayjay:
I pass and maybe that’s the problem. When I interview it always goes well but when it’s time to disclose my name difference I almost never get a call back. This is getting old as fuck. UGH /: makes me resent being trans.
What I’ve always done, unless I had to show ID at the interview (like my current job) is wait until they’ve already hired me. You could try not...
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Trans guys and Lesbians
Something that bothers me a lot is trans men trying to enter lesbian spaces/groups/etc or really any women’s spaces. Partly it bothers me because I don’t want more people to be convinced that trans men “are actually women” but that isn’t the main reason.
The main reason it bothers me is because men should not try to enter women’s-only spaces. I don’t...
blals:
has anyone ordered anything from the self made men? do you guys know if they’re reliable and if i’m gonna get what i order and in a timely fashion and stuff?
The first time I ordered from them I got my order within the time they said with no problems. The second time however my product took a week a longer than they said it would and it was not what I ordered. I e-mailed the and they...
wildheartscantbebroken:
FtM are so beautiful (◕‿◕✿)
What makes us any more beautiful than cisgender guys?
Work and Stealth Update
I’ve been working a lot these past few weeks (which is good because I need money) and I have been passing completely. A lot of anxiety that I had the first week on the floor has gone away. I was nervous meeting all the new people. I was worried someone from my high school would work there or I wouldn’t pass to someone. I’ve had no problems which is great.
I have already become...
theoptimisticbeaver:
Ok so I just injected myself for the second time and the injection site is bleeding just a tiny bit…… but I’m freaking out and the doctor’s office doesn’t open for another 2 hours. Should I be freaking out?
My shot site bleeds almost every time so I don’t think you should be worried.
My biceps have changed a lot. Between testosterone and working a physical job they look a lot different. It’s pretty wicked.
A bit of advice please...
tilily91:
I have been recently hanging out with a new friend. He is FtM, which doesn’t bother me but he kissed me last night. I’m not quite sure how to take it. I have a crush on him but I’m not quite sure how I feel about that either. I things progress, I have no idea where I stand. Any advice or just someone I can possibly talk to?
You can message me and we can talk in private about this...
ill-interrogate-the-cat:
-waves arms-
FTMS OUT HERE ON TUMBLR! I NEED YOUR ASSISTANCE!
I’m going on a ropes course tomorrow in Braintree and I’ll be out tomorrow so I’ll be in the boys’ group and called Dan and whatnot and I need to know if binding is a bad idea. The field trip is from ~8am EST - 1:00pm EST so like
yeah
I need answers tonight though :c
5 hours is fine I think. I bind for...
Fuck Yeah FTMs!: Transition help! →
fuckyeahftms:
Hey guys,
My name is Skylar. I’m 17 years old, and a bit frustrated. My parents have let me wear male clothing and allow me to present myself as a male in general. They still use femal pronouns and my birth name, but strangely will treat me as a male and talk to me as if I’m male, like “how I’ll…
My mom thought I was going to regret taking T too. The thing that helped her...
When transgirls say they'd never date a transguy~
midwest-meltdown:
I never understood why they wouldn’t. Like don’t get me wrong, we’re all entitled to our opinions and all but how could you not not mind if they trans or not?
Yeah, I’m pretty sure it’s generally because of not wanting to date someone who deals with the same problems you do. That being said one of the most lovely, healthy couples I know are two trans men. It can...
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Am I Queer? Confusion and Thoughts
For a while now I’ve been feeling less like I belong in the queer community and more like an ally to the queer community. I know that many people who are trans* do not feel that they are part of the queer community and I’m starting to feel more like that as time goes on.
This is weird for me not because I think people who are trans are therefore queer (I know that is untrue) but...
neourological asked: How do I get my mom to buy boys clothes? Last time I tried to she got kind of upset. I've been wearing boys clothes all of my life, but theyre mostly my brothers hand-me-downs.
Dysphoria thoughts..
fit-candyman:
This is a “new” word to me, the meaning behind it has always bin in my head thou. I have learned to live with it without questioning myself why i feel this way about my body. I made up my mind long time ago that this is my body and always will be and it’s nothing to do about it. But thinkfully I changed my mind, and at that moment I felt so much better about myself beacause i know...
abriefmomentofclarity asked: Is it possible for an ftm to change their ID and records to male even though they haven't had bottom surgery?
Anonymous asked: Little anecdote regarding shopping in the men's section (I've been doing my shopping there before I even identified as genderqueer) - the time I put on my first binder I got a major confidence boost because I no longer looked like a boy with boobs so no one would question me being there. I went to look for some boxers and I had this female assistant who kept coming up to me and trying to...
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Tips for Buying in the Men's Section
I see a lot of guys being nervous about shopping in the men’s section of clothing stores. I used to be really nervous when I started to as well. As a kid I wore a lot of boys clothes but they were from my brothers. So when I ventured into the men’s section I was really nervous.
Here are some tips that helped me get over the nervousness.
1) Shop with friends
I remember when I was...
My Brother (thoughts and rambles just because)
One of my brothers is in town right now. I haven’t seen him yet. He’s staying here but I purposely stayed out last night because he had friends over. Then I worked all day today and he is out with friends right now.
I’ll see him at some point tomorrow and it will be interesting I think. He’s always said he was supportive but he’s never proven this. He’s never...
abriefmomentofclarity:
why is it that when I ask someone who’s transitioned or would know about the subject of it for advice they never answer me i just don’t understand it.
Dunno why but if you have questions/want to talk you can message me :)
Dropping my voice without T?
knownasjamesroe:
Hey, I know I could look into how to deepen my voice from websites, but I was wondering if any of you out there knew how to deeper your voice naturally, Based on personal experience or knowledge even? I can’t afford T yet, so I’m hoping someone will give me something to practice to help. Also, if anyone knows, what’s the main difference in men and women’s...
strudel-strider:
this is probably a really dumb question but can you sleep with a binder on?
It’s not recommended to do so because it can be pretty unsafe. Unless you really have to and there is absolutely not other options then don’t do it.
My endocrinologist is pretty much the coolest person ever - no big deal.
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Advice Sharing Idea!
Hey everyone,
I’ve been collecting a list of clothing (type and/or brand), underwear, and other items around that help me hide my hips, pack, bind, hide my chest, etc. I thought it would be cool to make a big list.
Here is what I’m thinking:
If you have something you want to be added either give your advice through and ask or a reblog and I will add it to the list (which will...
I’m sending off my application for my birth certificate tomorrow. It should have been sent off a while ago but coordinating with my Mom took a while and we both kept forgetting.
It feels good because after I get that I can get new ID, Carecard and all of that. The only downside was having to mark “female” on the application.
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Communication and Emotional Changes on...
I was having a hard time figuring out why I felt different being on testosterone. I knew some people had emotional and communication changes on testosterone but I was still bothered by how I felt. I felt like I couldn’t communicate, I felt there no one understood what I was trying to say. It was all very frustrating.
I talked to my endocrinologist about this. He said that many people in...
How much does testosterone cost?
I depends where you’re living and if you have insurance.
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Problems with Co-Workers (Transphobia)
The company I work for protects all people from discrimination and specifically state someone can be discriminated against based on their gender identity. However, the workers don’t all seem to uphold those values.
One younger guy has said some unfortunate things about someone who is an immigrant and works for us and also two women that might have been dating.
Today about five or seven...
A Transsexual Man's Story: Communication my... →
flippin-franky:
journeyintomanhood:
(If you don’t want to read the whole post, the bold really sums it up and explains what kind of advice I’m looking for)
My Dad’s side of the family is super complicated. To put it shortly I grew up with two women being grandmother figures from his family and they are sisters. We’ll call them…
ok this might or might not work. but I have had older relatives...
legend-of-dinkalink:
So i managed to bind slightly. I have to wear three layers and it’s a bit difficult to breathe. I used two scarves and wrapped them around my chest tight. If anyone has any other ideas, then let me know?
If you can’t afford to or have no way to get a proper binder a good alternative is buying a material back brace from somewhere like walmart.
Cardio in a binder = unfun
But working out makes me happy so it all evens out in the end :)
claudefaustus-spiderdemon:
Does anyone know of someone on tumblr who’s had ftm transsexual surgery that’s willing to answer questions?
Depends what surgery you’re talking about there are people out there who talk about their experiences getting different surgeries.
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Communication my Transition to my Grandmothers:...
(If you don’t want to read the whole post, the bold really sums it up and explains what kind of advice I’m looking for)
My Dad’s side of the family is super complicated. To put it shortly I grew up with two women being grandmother figures from his family and they are sisters. We’ll call them Grandma B and Grandma J. They are both first generation Canadian with their family...
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Just found out my brother is coming here for a couple nights. I have no problems with him being here but he is bringing a couple of friends for one night.
Which means so much awkward. Even if he doesn’t out me, though he probably will since he had yet to not use my birth name despite claiming he is supportive I am not even slightly comfortable with random people in my house. This means not...
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University Year 1 Part 1: The Decision to go...
I decided to go stealth before I started university in September but I had a few concerns and fears.
First, I had not started testosterone and I wasn’t sure if I could pass well enough to be stealth. I had been passing consistently for about a year with the only exception was at work when I my uniform was too tight. I was still really nervous.
Second, the University I went to is in my...
I came out to 2 friends today.
paisleythegentleman:
Its kind of a big deal. For me at least.
congrats! That’s a big step and a hard one to take.
I ran into two friends from high school who I haven’t seen in a little while and they both commented on how low my voice has gotten
Anonymous asked: how long were you in therapy before you got your T letter?
carebuu:
How do people explain their voice dropping to people without coming out as trans?
Only Im stealth to quite a few people and when I eventually start T I know there are gonna be questions…….and if possible I would much rather remain stealth
I’m 18 so I guess the “late puberty” thing could slide…but I just dont know I’m worried
I haven’t had people straight out ask me why my...
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Irony
My best friend from childhood and I have recently got back into contact. We haven’t talked about my transition yet but I know from when we were in high school she thinks it’s “weird” and “stupid” and doesn’t like it or understand why.
The ironic thing is when we were kids she was the one who gave me a nickname that was a boys name so I had a name that...
Apparently I can have facial hair at work but it has to be a full beard or mustache and not in between scraggly or scruffy hair which is all I can currently grow.
So I have to stay clean shaven … :/
April 2013
100 posts
uknouluvmaggie:
Random thought I just had about trans* people. If you’re transitioning but haven’t had top/bottom surgery, and you’re with someone, sexually, would you want them to not mess with your fem/manly bits?
Like, if you’re a FtM would you mind if they played with your chest like they would with a woman, or would you be offended by that?
And if you’re a MtF would you allow them to play...
I have no idea how to go about transitioning.
skinny-little-fox:
I’ve tried looking up things about top surgery , hysterectomy, and starting T. I can’t find anything helpful though. I don’t know where to go, where to start, or who to call. I’m so confused. Is there anyone that could help me at all? I am just so lost and I’ve been looking for awhile…
You could try talking to your family doctor about it. They might be able to refer you to...
dale-with-it:
ok ima throw this out there. gender and sex are different right?
one is how you see yourself and the other is how you were born, correct? so why the fuck do people get all fucking pissed when someone whom is trans* is referred to by their sex instead of gender? i mean, if you have fallopian tubes, ovaries, a cervix, vagina, a uterus, and the ability to create eggs, etc. you have...
